Friendships: Quality over Quantity

Feelings of happiness are easy. Happiness is not. Flirting is easy. Love is not. Saying you’re friends is easy. Being friends is not. - David Levithan.

There are life lessons our parents teach us, life lessons we learn on our own and life lessons that only our friends can teach us. Friends are essential in our lives and while many friends have exparations dates,very few remain with us until the end of our days.

As children we don’t really choose friends. It's very quiet simple at the young age. Those who smile and play with us automatically built a friendship with us. The one that hangs around the most automatically becomes the best friend.

In adulthood the dynamic of friendship shifts because, as we mature we develop our own unique personality, needs, wants, and therefore just a smile is no longer enough.

The environment we are in, be it school or work, narrows down the list of friends you can choose from by default, just by virtue of the fact that you are in that environment.

Quality over Quantity

There are people who find value in having a lot of friends. The fact that they can confidently invite over twenty friends and post the gathering on social media allows them to fill their mind bubble with desired popularity. It allows them to feel heard, wanted and liked, factors that are most likely missing in reality. The truth is, not everyone can garner that many friends, unless you start giving out "ice-cream" in the forms of a job, free amenities, giveaways, etc.

And then there is another kind of people who find value in having as little friends as they possibly can. These folks guard their friendship circle so strongly because it is built on trust, love, respect and loyalty. Majority of the time, such friendships can even comprise of as little as two people. It is quite rare for this kind of friendship circle to get past five individuals. Having a whole bunch of fiends to hang out and party might look "great" from the outside, but having a few strong individuals in your inner circle who you can always count on is the real deal.

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How to Forget Your Ex

When a relationship ends, it can be devastating. In fact it is often compared to coping with the death of a loved on. You may be wondering where you went wrong, or blame the other person. All by yourself you may start wondering if you can go on without your former partner. Fortunately, you can get through this difficult time and have a brighter future ahead. Here is how.

Grieving Is Natural

When you and your ex part ways, grieving is natural and normal. If you truly cared about this person, you will feel a sense of loss. Your life will feel empty when he or she is no longer around.

If not hanndled properly grieving can become dangerous. Denial Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance, the five stages of grief. If you do not reach a stage where you accept the relationship is over, you can fall into a deep depression. The good news is loss of a relationship does not mean your life is over. There are steps you can take to avoid depression, and enjoy a happy life.

How To Forget Your Ex

The end of a relationship is the time to focus on yourself! When you are single, it is an excellent opportunity to explore, experiment, and have fun!

Today, you have time for hobbies. Perhaps there was an activity you enjoyed in the past, but set it aside when your partner came into your life. Perhaps you never took up a hobby at all. Whether you want to start up an old interest again or try something new, there are plenty of resources to come up with ideas. There may be classes at your local gym or community center, information online, or people in your life who can help you find something you will enjoy. Crafts, cooking, music, art, adult courses, and exercise classes are only a few examples.

Think of the end of your relationship as the beginning of your new life, your future ahead is full of possibilites and can be exciting and worthwhile!