by Charles T.
When you have been with someone for a long time, your sex life can become a routine or rather 'boring.' When things start to feel monotonous, it is a good idea to spice things up. This can help improve your relationship, in and out of the bedroom. Also, getting frisky with your partner can enhance your mood by reducing anxiety. If you want to get frisky and shake things up, here are a few tips.
Try Something New
When your sex life becomes predictable, it is hard for you to look forward to it because you know what to expect. You can start by trying new sexual positions. According to the Kama Sutra, there are about 64 positions you can explore. All sex positions begin from three points, namely;
Facing each other vs. rear entry
Lying side by side, lying stacked or standing Either him or her on top. From there, the rest are simply variations of the above. For instance, during the rear entry, she is bending over the bed with him standing behind. You can also try reverse missionary or reverse cowgirl. If you do not find trying sex positions fun, you can revert. However, it is best to be open-minded to have more fun. You can also introduce role-play or sex toys every once in a while.
Try Some Light BDSM
BDSM stands for "bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism." It can range from your partner holding you down lightly to handcuffs and whips. Here, the partner who enjoys the thrill of power can be dominant, while the one who enjoys the rush of helplessness is submissive. When starting, you can go for simple acts like tying or blindfolding each other or with a silk scarf. Avoid a slipknot because it can hinder proper air circulation. BDSM comes with a 'safe word' where, if one feels uncomfortable during the act, they can say it so that the partner stops what they are doing.
Dirty Talking
Most people find it uncomfortable to talk dirty in the bedroom. However, it can help spice things up when you are tired of a routine. The trick to talking dirty is being in the moment and saying whatever emotion you feel. Do not shy off from telling your partner what you want to do to them or what you want them to do to you. At times, being animals in bed is just what you need.
Get Out of the Bedroom
Sex does not always have to happen in the bedroom. Take those sex sessions anywhere in the house, especially if your privacy is assured. Your options include the sofa, the kitchen table, shower, the swimming pool, on the floor, against the wall, in the car, etc. Explore! Sex outside the bedroom is spontaneous and hot, which makes it exciting. Also, there is the possibility that you have had sex outside the bedroom when your relationship was still early. How about reliving those days?
Spicing things up in the bedroom will have to make an effort from both of you. Sex is essential, and it is one of the things that keeps your relationship firm. You also do not have to wait till your partner voices their dissatisfaction in bed for both of you to take action. Spice things up and enjoy an exciting sex life.
